Your 20s are meant to be the decade where you figure everything out—or at least, that’s what we’re told. In reality, this stage of life is full of messy dating experiences, evolving friendships, and unexpected lessons in self-growth. Some days, it feels like everything is falling into place; other days, it’s more like a rom-com gone wrong.
Through it all, I’ve learned that love—whether romantic, platonic, or self-love—isn’t about perfection. It’s about growth, effort, and knowing when to walk away from what no longer serves you.
1. Dating in Your 20s: Exciting, Exhausting & Everything In Between
Navigating dating in today’s world is… a lot. Between endless swiping, ghosting, and decoding mixed signals, it sometimes feels like a full-time job. But I’ve realised that the key to dating is:
- Stop romanticising potential. Someone’s “what if” doesn’t matter—look at who they are right now.
- You don’t have to play games. If you like them, say it. If they like you, they’ll show it.
- Rejection isn’t a reflection of your worth. Sometimes, it’s just not meant to be—and that’s okay.
Dating in your 20s isn’t about finding “the one” immediately. It’s about figuring out what you actually want and enjoying the experience along the way.
2. Friendships: The Ones That Grow & The Ones That Fade
Your 20s are when you start to realise that friendships change—sometimes for the better, sometimes for good. The friendships that once felt effortless might require more work, and people you thought would be in your life forever might fade away.
What I’ve learned?
- Prioritise friendships that feel mutual. If you’re always the one reaching out, it might be time to let go.
- Make the effort. Life gets busy, but real friendships are worth maintaining—even if it’s just a quick voice note.
- Quality over quantity. A few close, supportive friends mean more than a large circle of acquaintances.
3. Self-Growth: Learning to Love Your Own Company
Amongst the chaos of dating and friendships, your 20s are also about learning who you are outside of relationships. It’s easy to get caught up in external validation, but the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one with yourself.
Some self-growth lessons that changed everything for me:
- Spend time alone, and actually enjoy it. Solo coffee dates, solo trips—getting comfortable with your own company is empowering.
- Set boundaries without guilt. You don’t have to be available to everyone all the time.
- Celebrate your wins. Whether it’s getting a new job or simply making it through a tough day, your growth deserves recognition.
Final Thoughts
Love in your 20s isn’t just about relationships with others—it’s also about falling in love with your own life. Whether it’s navigating dating, maintaining meaningful friendships, or focusing on self-growth, this decade is full of lessons that shape who we become.
